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It has occurred in my life that sometimes men get obsessed with a woman they keep describing as beautiful even if she is not a supermodel. I have found that this can take place. Those men have dark pasts at times and at other times they just listen to rumors and wonder if they can get in a relationship with a woman that has not been in a lot of relationships. Other times, a man really believes that a woman has been in a lot of relationships and that he could be the next guy for her. The problem is that a woman decides for herself when she is going to get in a relationship and men cannot keep fighting forever nor pressure a woman to be in a relationship with each of them. They can make situations so crazy that a woman will choose none of them. That is the case in dating and marriage.
~~Mariam M. Khan, MBA & Doctoral Candidate

As successful as I am, I am a product of a dysfunctional home. I have been a former federal law enforcement officer and in the past and present (and hopefully in the future) I was and am a political public figure. To others out there in a similar situation as a dysfunctional home, let nothing stand in your way to success. Remember that everything you want will be easier with a positive attitude and that it will be a reflection of your health made up of your mind, body, and soul. Your goals will be more attainable if you approach everything without anger and let your current feelings be your motivation, not your bitterness, to change your living situation.”
~~Mariam Mujib Khan, MBA & Doctoral Candidate

It is best to remove yourself from a situation that does not grow you toward what you want in life and how you want to live a life where you are surrounded by positive people that give you respect and love.”
~~Mariam Mujib Khan, MBA & Doctoral Candidate

Ever meet somebody that pretends to be so good or holier-than-thou righteous that is actually duplicitous, deceitful, and manipulative? That wants to believe they are a good person because they can justify everything they do with excuses? Then, you see them end up with somebody their equal. Yeah, they deserve each other. Case closed. Don’t look back. What wasn’t meant for you means you don’t take back leftovers. Who ever changed their mind about what they threw away in the garbage to pick it back up and keep it? Now it’s destroyed. Leave it there for somebody else. As they say, one person’s trash is another person’s treasure. Just because one person cannot be meant for you doesn’t mean there isn’t another stupid person out there they can be stupid with together.”
~~Mariam M. Khan, MBA & Doctoral Candidate

If you tell me I don’t know what I’m talking about and I don’t know how to handle my situation, remember I have already been where you are at currently and gotten past it as a SUCCESS story. That is why I am capable of speaking about an issue because it is in my PAST. You are still going through it whatever it is. So don’t get verbal, listen to the advice with open ears rather than letting the advice fall on deaf ears, because you might be stuck there forever, longer than you want, or when you finally get past it, have developed problems of your own in how you display your ATTITUDE to everybody around you. And believe me, you only THINK it’s a positive attitude; you actually repel people away from you with your bitterness, anger, and negativity when you think you are tough, strong, and positive. You are nothing of the sort. You can be bitter and still be strong. One does not necessarily cancel out the other. And the NEGATIVE attitude shows to everybody around you; so learn to accept free help when it is offered in the form of wise words. Sometimes you are too hurt to reach out to specific people or you have nobody to reach out too. So when a random stranger reaches out to you, take it for the positive association and connotation that is in it, accept it, then get over it as YOUR problem, and get over yourself. Nobody in this world is born with an entitlement to anything. Not even you. You are not entitled to people being kind to you. So when somebody is, recognize it, rejoice in it, and see the blessing.”
~~Mariam Mujib Khan, MBA & Doctoral Candidate

By not getting caught up in the problems of somebody else that refuses to listen to reason, you save yourself from abuse in many instances and possible victimization, however, that does not mean that you stop trying to help all people.”
~~Mariam Mujib Khan, MBA

There are many people in the world that cannot understand somebody approaching them kindly, in a friendly manner, out of the goodness of their heart, and saying, ‘Hey, I know you are going through something difficult and have been for a while. You are not wrong. But here’s what is wrong with what you’re saying and how you are going about saying it. Here’s how you might get in trouble. Here’s a better way to handle your situation.’ Some people are simply too bitter to understand any approach to them so their attitude determines that people leave them alone. That might not be best for that person, but it is best for those that do not need to be caught up in the problems of somebody else.”
~~Mariam M. Khan, MBA & Doctoral Candidate

You try to help people who are filled with bitterness over difficult cards life has dealt them, and instead they get verbal with you; they tell you that you don’t know what you are talking about; they don’t want help. They can’t see how angry and negative they are. They see themselves as determined to get what they want the way they wish to go about it regardless of physical violence; well, can’t help everybody. Can just tell them to take care of themselves and wish them on their merry (or not-so-merry) way. No sense in getting caught up in the problems of somebody else. That is not what the smart person does. A smart person says what they need to say and if it falls on deaf ears, they say no more with a pleasant thank you and goodbye.”
~~Mariam Mujib Khan, MBA & Doctoral Candidate

Let’s enlighten ourselves to understand that bad people, criminals, terrorists, violence makers, aggressors, etc. are born to all walks of life, all races, all ethnicities, all backgrounds, all creeds, all religions, all denominations, all nationalities, all abilities of languages, all genders, all sexual orientations, all identifying factors that cannot be changed because of identity that a person is born into and with. While discrimination from the protected classes of identity is protected by the US constitution, many people have yet to understand that no one identifiable group can be or is allowed to be bashed as criminals or terrorists by a group of other identifiable groups that all adhere to some similarity in their identification. Such cooperation among people of the same identity is not a positive thing, it is HATE that finds a way to manifest itself in the words and actions of that group against another group. It is illegal and the laws must be enforced. Even when the enforcers do not agree, the law will be carried out for justice in the courts by judges, and when a lower court judge does not agree, a higher court judge will interpret the laws already passed into legislation for what those laws mean; the only way to overturn it is to go to the supreme court. So if a group wants to change something to discrimination, go to the supreme court and petition there to have HATE officially legalized into the law, otherwise…nothing can be done but not to act that way in the first place.”
~~Mariam Mujib Khan, MBA & Doctoral Candidate

“I actually do not want to be surrounded by the worst of human beings that think they are above the law simply because they are relied on to do the worst things for an occupation that is not anywhere near accurate of what they report on their taxes as a job title, if they pay taxes.

I am happy being surrounded by positive, like-minded people with book smarts and similar interests that also are with me in positive places and situations. My aim in life now is not to catch bad guys to make the world a better place, but to help people in creating positive global and domestic social change to make the world a better place.”

~~Mariam Mujib Khan, MBA & Doctoral Candidate

Just because I disagree with the war politically and strategically and financially does not mean that I cannot recognize the unnecessary sacrifice our men and women in uniform as troops of our United States Armed Forces are making every day to be out there on the front lines risking their lives all for a decision made in Washington, DC to send them there when most of those decision makers have not been to war themselves and will not support sending their ivy league educated children to war either, but they can send the children of the tax payers. #Just sayin’. #Stay informed.”
~~Mariam M. Khan, MBA & Doctoral Candidate

When people are not as kind to you as you are and have been to them, keep being kind, and when you can’t take it anymore, still say nothing; just put it in the back of your mind and keep being kind but do not be as willing to do things for those people anymore as you were. Just don’t mention it or you will be the person with less class.”
~~Mariam M. Khan, MBA

You actually have to go places, physical locations, if you want to go places in life to achieve success.”
~~Mariam M. Khan, MBA

“A person, especially a woman, should know her own worth. She should never look for it as value in how a man treats her. If she knows her own worth, she will tolerate nothing less than respect. And she will not be with a man for very long that cannot give respect to her. This is true in professional career choices, the situations she finds herself in, the company she keeps, and in other arenas of life. At the same token, she will see value in a man that treats her well and who is a good, honest, decent human being that can treat her with respect, love, kindness, and other good characteristics determinant of qualities to be admired in a human being. She will know her own worth and settle for a man that can recognize her worth. It does not mean she will only attract good men. She will have to discard the trash to find the treasure. If she sees as trash a man that cannot respect her, then it’s time to make a change. Many times, the mistake a woman makes is in not recognizing the trash soon enough. That being said, it is better to take trash out before it starts to rot and stink. To end on a good note, once she has found a good man, that relationship will flourish with little effort and it will be of a good scent, far from the stink of rotting trash. It will thrive in harmony and balance of respect for one another and grow in love through kindness and concern for each person’s feelings.”

~~Mariam M. Khan, MBA & Doctoral Candidate

Citizens should be able to protect themselves legally as they see fit, but again legally, and without going overboard.”
~~Mariam M. Khan, MBA